What is intimacy?

Intimacy can be emotional, spiritual, physical, and intellectual. Intimacy is based on trust and respect, daring to be vulnerable with another person, and often manifests as a strong warm feeling.

  • Intellectual intimacy, for example, could be the ability to talk endlessly about anything. Being able to debate without fearing that the friendship or relationship is in jeopardy.
  • Physical intimacy could mean desire, longing, and a constant urge to touch the person, to be close, to hold hands, to cuddle, to kiss deeply, to look into each other's eyes and to caress and hug warmly and for a long time.
  • Spiritual intimacy can, for instance, be between parents and children when a parent senses that their child is unwell or that something has happened. There's a strong need to protect their child. Spiritual intimacy can also be in a romantic relationship, when the couple experience thinking the same thing at the same time and have the need to be close and to take care of each other.
  • Emotional intimacy can be when two people feel they belong entirely to each other. There, deep and trust-based affection and support exist. These two individuals support and encourage each other and are there when the other needs them.

Intimacy can be very important in forming a good relationship, where trust, respect, and touch are integral parts of communication. Intimacy related to sex can make the sexual experience more meaningful and better. It can be a good idea to ask the other person, for example, how much touch they prefer, as what each person likes is important. Some want a lot of hugs, while others want few. Some always want to hold hands or kiss often, while others prefer it less frequently. By discussing things, you can figure out what works best so that both parties are content. It takes courage to discuss these matters, but it can greatly improve the relationship if you dare.