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Adolescents often wonder when the first time will be and how someone knows when they're ready.
It's good to keep in mind that sex is many things and not just about a penis in a vagina. Some people never engage in that type of sex but indeed have their first sexual experience with someone else, it's just different. Sometimes there are two vaginas, sometimes two penises, and sometimes people want to do anything but put the penis in the vagina. The first time can be many things, such as the first lick, cuddling naked together, pleasuring another person, oral sex, or intercourse.
Often the most stress or anxiety is related to intercourse, if for example we're talking about heterosexual couples. Then, it can be good to take your time with foreplay, kissing, caressing each other's bodies, and making sure both the penis is erect and the vagina is wet. If the vagina does not become wet, intercourse can be difficult and uncomfortable. High stress can affect the genitals, and if they're not ready, it's nice to just kiss a little longer, enjoy lying together and cuddling until the bodies relax more. If things aren't going well or one partner feels uncomfortable, it's always okay to stop.
Remember, there's no rush; 75% of 10th graders in Iceland have not had intercourse with others. Some start early, but it's most common to have intercourse for the first time after entering secondary school. If everything is as it should be, you can have sex throughout your life if you want. Many grandmothers and grandfathers have great sex, so you see, there is plenty of time.