How to respond if a coworker faces domestic abuse.

Discussing personal abuse in the workplace can be incredibly difficult. When a victim chooses to disclose their situation, a colleague's support makes a crucial difference. Because abusers often isolate their targets, the workplace frequently serves as a vital lifeline.

Consider the following points if a coworker discloses ongoing abuse:

Show empathy rather than judging the victim for staying or questioning their circumstances.

Offer your unwavering support and ensure they know you are available.

Always respect their desire for confidentiality.

Prioritize safety above all else.

Listen actively and give them the time they need.

Never ask for proof of the abuse.

Avoid contacting the abuser, as this could endanger both the victim and yourself.

Refrain from pressuring them to seek help, since they must make that decision independently.

Do not attempt to act as a counselor. If anyone faces immediate danger, call 112.

Research indicates that women face repeated domestic abuse more often than men, but men are also victims, and abuse occurs in LGBT+ relationships as well.

Additional considerations:

If a victim confides in you but hesitates to tell a supervisor, gently suggest they consult the Department of Human Resources & Work Environments or another qualified staff member. You must only take these steps in direct consultation with the victim.

Notifying a supervisor or other workplace leaders can be essential for improving the person's safety at work and for contextualizing any decline in their job performance. We always recommend that victims contact a counselor specializing in domestic abuse. Ultimately, the victim must make that choice.

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